Turning up at someone’s house, unannounced.


Turning up at someone’s house, unannounced, who has told you they don’t want to see you.


What this act does – what is really does, is remind that person of all the other times their boundaries were crossed by you.  Their personhood ignored by you.  It’s triggering and destructive.   It is a bullying act.


I know – it is hard to be estranged from your adult child.


But you can’t force them to forgive you.


To love you.


You can’t.


Don’t do it again.