Turning up at someone’s house, unannounced.

 

Turning up at someone’s house, unannounced, who has told you they don’t want to see you.

 

What this act does – what is really does, is remind that person of all the other times their boundaries were crossed by you.  Their personhood ignored by you.  It’s triggering and destructive.   It is a bullying act.

 

I know – it is hard to be estranged from your adult child.

 

But you can’t force them to forgive you.

 

To love you.

 

You can’t.

 

Don’t do it again.

 

 

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