Love means having to say you’re sorry
Posted on August 7, 2015
I wrote a PRO and CON list of the reasons to go no contact with my parents. There are 28 reasons to do it. There are 2 reasons not to do it. I was going to post it, but I realised I’m done being a victim. *I* know what happened, so do my sibs. I can reduce the 28 points into one, simple, message. The one thing I’ve been waiting to hear all these years.
- Acknowledge what you did
- Say sorry
- Just fucking say sorry. SERIOUSLY. Jeeze.
There. Admitting what you did and saying sorry = you care about the other person more than your own ego.
Not doing it. That’s a choice.
If I cut them off, I’m repeating the past. One hundred years of estrangement. It’s like the title of a Mexcian novel. It’s how long the estrangement meme has been repeating in my family like some virus. One hundred years.
mother, I was 7